I have been separated from my childs father for over 8 years now and i have been nothing but fair with. so why is it that he is being a complete shit? It all started last year when he thought he was clever and tried to trick me into giving him parental responsibilty, he said that he wanted to include him on his bupa private medical and that the only way he could do it was for me to go to court and sign a form saying i give him parental responsibility. Now as you dont know this man like i do few would say yes dads should have rights. well i lived with this man so i knew nothing is black and white with him and that there would be some motive behind it ,so i refused and then we had a big row.The reason i refused to let this man have PA was because he hasnt been a perfect dad far from it. This man was an abusive alcoholic who preffered getting pissed in the pub rather than spending time with his child. when my son was 2 i gave him an ultermatum either stop going to the pub or its over . Well he chose the pub , stayed in the house while my child and i had to go and live in a dirty hostel for 4 months.its only in the last couple of years that he s quit the drink that he s taken an interest in his son. Well my opinion is its too late, i have never stopped him going it was him that used to let his son down